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Message Check

When not to send at all

3 min · Video lesson

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Written lesson

Not every message needs to exist. If there is no logistics to handle and you are sending to relieve your own anxiety, that is the moment to write it privately instead. Sending to feel better usually transfers the pressure to the other person. Hold the draft, do a stabilizing action, and revisit it tomorrow.

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Identify one message you would send only to feel better. Write it in the journal instead of sending it.

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