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Message Check
The three-pass edit
5 min · Video lesson
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Written lesson
Pass one: remove anything that asks the other person to manage your feelings. Pass two: remove anything that demands a timeline, a promise, or reassurance. Pass three: keep only what is true, short, and practical. Run the result through the Message Check tool before you send it.
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Apply the three passes to a real draft and paste the final version into Message Check.
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